I’m not decorating for Christmas. Well, that is not entirely true. I did put up a tree. And thanks to my daughter, Amy, I have a beautiful Christmas wreath, mantel and door decorations. But this year, I decided that I would stop there and not put out the nativity scenes, Santas, snowmen, nutcrackers and other assorted decorations that I have collected over the years.
I’m not decorating for Christmas
On Sunday, my husband, Tony, dutifully went up to the attic and pulled all the Christmas boxes down. I put up the tree and decorated it, all the while thinking that it was one big chore. It used to be fun when I had kids at home. We would turn up the Christmas carols full blast and get caught up in the spirit and magic of Christmas. But the kids are now grown and on their own. They have their own homes, trees, decorations, and traditions. And that’s a GOOD thing!
I mentioned to Tony that decorating the tree wasn’t fun anymore since the kids were gone. Being the good guy that he is, he said, “I will help you. “ Uh, no. Tony’s contribution to the decorations has always been to make sure the tree was perfectly level (Did I mention he’s an engineer?) and to hang the outside lights. I couldn’t imagine he would relish spending time hanging tiny, fragile ornaments on a tree or that I would be able to let him do it the wrong – his way.
After assembling the tree, I was going to unpack the rest of the decorations, but thought the better of it when I remembered that I had an interior decorator coming the next week to help me with some re-decorating I planned to begin after the holidays. I wanted to leave the house pretty much as it was so that she could see it in its usual “un-Christmas” state.
So… I took the remaining decorations and put them in the guest room closet, fully intending to get them out after the decorator came. They are still there. And I don’t miss having them out one bit. So this year, they are staying in the boxes.
It’s not that I don’t like Christmas or beautiful decorations. I have friends who spend days decorating their homes for Christmas. They hire professional help to put up the tree. They LOVE everything about the process. And I LOVE going to their beautiful homes and taking it all in.
It’s just that decorating for Christmas at this point in my life is not that much fun and not that important to me. I’d rather spend my time doing something else.
I think on this side of 50, we need to look at where we spend our time and try to spend it on things that we find enjoyable and meaningful. Lord knows there is enough stuff we HAVE to do everyday that is not particularly fun or meaningful (laundry, cleaning up cat puke & unloading the dishwasher are on my list). It is OK to put aside the things we don’t like that we don’t HAVE to do.
So, sometimes being brave is letting go of the things you’ve always done or the way you’ve always done them, or what you think other people expect you to do to make room for something new.Sometimes being brave is letting go of the things we've always done to make room for something new. Click To Tweet
Do you have any holiday “must haves” or “must dos” that need to fall by the wayside?Do you have any holiday must-do's that need to fall by the wayside? Click To Tweet
- Maybe it’s not getting out the good china that has to be hand washed and instead getting some really nice plastic, disposable plates from Party City.
- Or not making your mom’s creamed onions because no one at your Christmas dinner will eat them anyway.
- Or putting all your gifts in bags and not spending time wrapping them and crafting beautiful bows.
- Or maybe it’s the gift exchange among the adults in your family in general. Have you ever wanted to take that money and make a contribution in their honor to a charity?
Or if you just LOVE doing all that we associate with Christmas – the cooking, baking, decorating and shopping – think about what other things you can let go of for this the month of December so that you can fully enjoy and embrace all that this season has to offer.
Whatever it is, be brave. Try something new. Let go of what doesn’t serve you well anymore. On this side of 50 (or at any time for that matter), it’s OK.
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